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Intimate relationship as catalyst for mutual awakening

I'm a very youthful, attractive woman, who looks like my photos although my hair is now long. Highly intelligent, intuitive (INFP), kind, empathic, warm and loving. I enjoy swimming, hiking, tennis, boating, ping pong, dining out, car trips, foreign travel, the creative and performing arts, personal growth workshops, yoga, qigong, and meditation.

I've been vegetarian for a number of years, and would be vegan if I could find vegan substitutes for eggs and yogurt, but local grocery stores don't have them, nor can I find them online.

Raised Catholic, I've been a mystic since the age of 8. Given the dogmatism of those times, I hardly survived my parochial education. Favorite college courses were in world spiritualities, anthropology, and mythologies. I was on a spiritual search that eventually took me to India for PhD research on kundalini yoga in Tantric Hinduism. I became a meditator in the Hindu tradition, then in midlife became a Tibetan (Tantric) Buddhist. Dorje Phagmo is my Buddhist name. Now I'm adding qigong and the energetic practices of Taoist internal alchemy (neidan). Today, I'm interspiritual, have multiple belongings of mostly Eastern traditions. I attend inclusive churches in SoCal --Agape, Unity and Unitarian. I do occasional afternoon Christian group retreats and residential Tibetan Buddhist group retreats.

I was a professor of world spiritualities, East-West psychology and transpersonal psychology. From 2000, I had a private practice as a transpersonal psychotherapist, life coach, and interspiritual director. Last year I was ordained as an interfaith / interspiritual minister, with a ministry in ethnic and religious mediation, conflict transformation, and peacebuilding. Now launching a part-time business as an executive coach, intercultural trainer and global management consultant.

I own a home in L.A. County with a yard large enough to grow my own organic produce. Since I moved to SoCal's sunny climate in 2000, my seasonal affective disorder (SAD) has gone into remission. If you want me to relocate for your sake, it has to be to another sunny climate but not an arid desert. Prolonged dark weather or rain causes me to lose my energy and scrambles my brain.

I've lived in France, Germany, India and Nepal, and traveled in Canada, Mexico and many European and Asian countries. I hope to continue exploring the world with you, sharing deep cultural immersions and spiritual adventures. Seeking a committed "evolutionary love relationship" based on mutual awakening and service to humanity.

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My Vegan Preferences

Are you a raw vegan?Sometimes
What is your favorite Vegan dish?Mixed organic salads
What was your motivation in becoming Vegan?Health, Love for animals, Environmental awareness, Other
How long have you been Vegan?I still eat some eggs, cheese and dairy yogurt..


EthnicityCaucasian / White
National heritageAmerican
Height5' 6" (168 cm)
Eye ColorHazel
Hair ColorBlonde
Hair LengthVery long
Best featureSmile
Body ArtPierced... but only ear(s)
Health ConditionNo special Health Conditions
My AttractivenessVery attractive


Relationship StatusWidowed
Has childrenNo children
Wants kidsNo
Housing SituationFriends come over occasionally
Living ArrangementsAlone
Wants to RelocateYes
Has a carYes

Education & Employment

EducationUniversity Doctorate
Employment StatusPart-time
Job TitleCoach, trainer, mgmt consultant, hypnotherapist

Leisure & Fun

TV preferencesI don't like TV
Favorite TV showsNone, I don't watch TV
Favorite movies typesScience fiction, Romance, Drama, Documentary
Favorite moviesThe King and I
Out of Africa
Dances with Wolves
the original Star Wars
Music typesRock, Classical, Blues, Jazz
Favorite artistsClassical composers: Bach, Beethoven, Ravel, Debussy, Stravinsky, Prokofiev
Celine Dion
Reading selectionBusiness, Fantasy, Health, Home & Garden, Philosophy, Poetry, Religious, Science fiction
Favorite booksMartin Buber. I and Thou.
Andrew Harvey & Chris Saade. Evolutionary Love Relationships
Eric Yudelove. Taoist Yoga and Sexual Energy.
Eastern spiritualities (Hindu, Buddhist)
Western esotericisms: Kabbalah, Gnostic Christianity, Esoteric Christiani
Idea of funCooking with my partner
Growing organic produce and medicinal herbs
Alternative healing
Dream interpretation group
Personal growth workshops
Beach days
Hiking in the hills
Ethnic restaurants and neighborhoods
Symphony and live theater
Ballet and modern dance performances
Car trips
Learning professional astrology systems
Foreign travel and cultural immersions
HobbiesExercising, Reading, Learning, Music, Movies, Internet, Dancing, Dining, Religion, spirituality, Theater, Travel, Cooking, Gardening, Volunteering, Shopping


SmokerDon't smoke
DrinkingDon't drink
Social behaviorFriendly
Friends describe asFriendly
In High School I was a(n)Brain
Sense of humorClever
My great timeHanging out with friends, Staying at home, Trying new things, The movies, Relaxing, Reading a book, Going to a concert, Going to a museum
Always wanted to tryBallroom dancing


Political viewsGreen party
Attend religious servicesOnce a week
Goal in lifeDeveloping a deep, loving relationship with my partner, including experimenting with the energetic techniques of Taoist internal alchemy (neidan) including sexual kung fu, leading to experiences of sacred sexuality.
Collaborating with others through collegial friendships and by means of professional expertise.
Joining with my partner in developing our creativity and talents for projects in sacred activism.
Continuing spiritual development with advanced meditation techniques and foreign pilgrimages.

Looking For

Must haveIntelligence, Good Looks, Humor, Great skills, Empathy, Sensitivity, Spontaneity, Wit, Thoughtfullness
Look for in a partnerPlease, no smokers, alcoholics or druggies.

We are all looking to fulfill our emotional needs for a best friend, lover and companion, and we yearn to find just the right person to create a deeply happy life together. Yet, I am the kind of woman who, from my own life experience as well as my studies, recognizes that intimate relationship has a hidden potential that most couples are unaware of -- the potential to be an ongoing spiritual path to what is called "conscious love" and to a mutual soul-awakening that can progressively transform all levels of our human nature. Such an evolutionary love relationship can ignite a renewed excitement about all the possibilities ahead for us in our senior years. For more detailed information, read Andrew Harvey and Chris Saade's "Evolutionary Love Relationships" as well as Patricia Albere's "Evolutionary Relationships."

My match is a refined, highly intelligent man who may have an advanced degree or professional training beyond the bachelor's, accomplished in his field and financially secure. If you identify, you may enjoy literature, poetry, art, classical music, theater, ballet and modern dance performances. You are caring, intuitive, social, funny and sometimes mischievous. You are youthful, fit, and nice looking in appearance. You enjoy new experiences and traveling in exotic foreign locations. You take care of your health by regular exercise. You have done your psychological shadow work, are basically happy with the life you've created. You are intrigued by this invitation to an "evolutionary love relationship" that leads to soul-awakening together, transforming all levels of our human nature, as well as a sustaining partnership in sacred activism. For more info, see Andrew Harvey and Chris Saade's book, Evolutionary Love Relationships, and Patricia Albere's "Evolutionary Relationships."

It's important to me that you are spiritually inclined and optimally have experience as a meditator. I meditate daily and also participate occasionally in retreats. I can blend with someone who is on any recognized mystical path. Extra points if you might be open to learning the energetic techniques of Taoist internal alchemy (neidan), including sexual kung fu -- exercises leading to greater vitality, better sex, transformation of bodily energy into spiritual energy, and experiences of transcendent sexuality.

Since I study Western psychologically astrology, I will use our astrological charts to assess the extent of our compatibility, and will be glad to share these written reports with you after a couple of dates. It will likely lead to a lively discussion!
On the first dateLeisurely lunch in a quiet restaurant, getting to know each other and sharing fun stories as well as future life goals.

Exercising Preferences

ExcercisesWalking, Yoga